tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1237865451372431264.post2678007234250940933..comments2023-06-05T08:30:06.639-04:00Comments on Dear Audrey: EasierJo Juliahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16981020170602413504noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1237865451372431264.post-14502924311146968932011-11-02T22:19:47.469-04:002011-11-02T22:19:47.469-04:00It's been just over 14 years since my first hu...It's been just over 14 years since my first husband died at the age of 27. People ALWAYS ask/say it "gets easier" right?? You're fine now, right?? How did you do get over it? I think because it makes them feel better. As if I'm some kind of experiment for how it's going to be for them if their spouse dies. I remind them that you never "get over it" and people deal with grief in their own way. You learn to manage the pain.Ritahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17436964610535964403noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1237865451372431264.post-509060079641946622011-09-29T19:57:41.134-04:002011-09-29T19:57:41.134-04:00thnx sophie. dan loved peter gabriel.thnx sophie. dan loved peter gabriel.Jo Juliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16981020170602413504noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1237865451372431264.post-78836097108219069372011-09-29T19:35:32.657-04:002011-09-29T19:35:32.657-04:00PS http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fQ3wpjdYMqkPS http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fQ3wpjdYMqkSophienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1237865451372431264.post-84835968944557761222011-09-29T19:10:33.109-04:002011-09-29T19:10:33.109-04:00"You see, when you lose a spouse, you lose an..."You see, when you lose a spouse, you lose an entire vernacular. Think of all of the things you speak to your spouse that you don't say to anyone else."<br /><br />This had such a profound effect on me just now reading this. I can't stop the tears. I had forgotten/buried/lost all the words Matt and I said to each other. I feel like I've lost a part of my language. And not just what he said, but oh the way he said it. Almost like code words without us ever agreeing to codes. Words if I had seen written or heard from someone else to their spouse I would have rolled my eyes at. I miss how Matt softened me. I miss how we would talk on the phone then when batteries ran out we would switch to skype. I miss I miss I miss. <br />xxxSophienoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1237865451372431264.post-48845240558391883342011-09-27T08:11:10.301-04:002011-09-27T08:11:10.301-04:00"The only thing worse than the shock and disb..."The only thing worse than the shock and disbelief that your husband is dead is the lack of shock and disbelief that your husband is dead. The only thing worse than the magical thinking that he might still return and reside with you again is the certainty that he will not."<br /><br />yes.meganhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10064483599165161879noreply@blogger.com